Narmu writes : "I am new to this site. I am very proud to be a Badaga girl. Our people are very loving, caring and are with humanity to a great extent except when it comes to inter caste marriage. They even accept when our boy marries a non-Badaga girl, but they really don't accept when our girl marries with a non-Badaga boy. My view is that the parents ego plays a vital role. In today's trends both the men and women are matured enough to choose their spouse. Any one who comes across this post, dont mistake me, its just my views".
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This topic, in my opinion, needs our urgent attention. There is plenty of truth in what Narmu says. Do we, especially the elders in the community, need to change our mind set? Is it not time to change with the 'changing times'?? - Wg Cdr JP
Some comments
MAHALAKSHMI R on 18/11/2011
shanker krishnamurthy on 16/11/2011
sofiajoghee on 14/11/2011
For people who are so strict about not adapting, should keep it to themselves and not impose on others. Why don’t we all just go back to our hatti and do agriculture and grace cows instead of using computers for any matter? We have grown because we have adapted. Lets not restrict the growth. Keep faith and culture within and let it nurish.
Main problem is not that the parents are opposing, but if the parents accept such marriages, their final rituals face lot of issues in our community. Also, the person who has done inter-caste marriage is treated as if the parents are no more their parents. Who on earth or any community for that matter devoid a child from parents just because they chose their partners. Inter state, and inter caste marriages have enriched lot of cultures since history. Those cultures who have tried to be closed have depleted soon. Its only fear that is prevailing and narrow thoughts, which we have to overcome.
We need to change, at least for the kind of global movement of our people, culture is something we have in our heart and what we follow and not in choosing a soul mate.
….no body encourages because, everybody thinks somebody will ill treat them and anybody could question them. Fear is the major factor. Unconditional love will prevail in this world. don’t condition and restrict it to ourselves. Spread love and respect, it will reflect on us. World is like a mirror, we get what we give.
Krishnaraj.P.H. on 13/11/2011
We on the whole think and like our Badugas to stay as such what we are.I think all of us have that in mind as a Baduga, but it is left to their own opinion if they need to marry their girl out side or marry a girl from other religion or caste towards their family.
mlle_sumathi on 13/11/2011
senthil Kumar on 13/11/2011
kumar bellie on 12/11/2011
anand on 12/11/2011
Why talk about inter caste marriage? We should try to protect our culture and customs maintained by our elders. Our male female ratio is not that bad, we encourage these type of statements. Everyone will get their life partners within our community. In my opinion no need to encourage this.
mlle_sumathi on 12/11/2011
Such a narrow minded thought !!! you have to evolve. Sorry about that.